While attending a New Years Eve party, I happen to sit down at a table with a group of women that attended solo. One woman was clearly frustrated that “no men are out here.” Like fast and furious, a conversation was struck up that all the decent men were taken. Another woman said, “that’s why I’m only looking for a FWB for 2015.” In unison, the meows and high fives started flying around.. and most of the women at the table agreed with that notion. As a life coach, clearly I needed to dig into this FWB situation a little deeper. So I pulled up my Urban Dictionary and found this definition: “Two friends who have a sexual relationship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogamous relationship or any kind of commitment. A safe relationship, that mimics a real partnership but is empty or greatly lacking jealousy and other such emotions that come with a serious relationship”.
Okay, so basically a physically involved relationship, where both partners enjoy some comforts of sitting on the fence between a serious relationship and a simple friendship. Personally speaking, here lies the issue with this setup. Because most women are hardwired to emotionally connect with the partner to whom she is sharing her body with, I can clearly see the downside of being Friends-With-Benefits. Girlfriends beware, you are going to be left holding your heart in your hands. Frankly speaking, being in a relationship with someone who has sex with you but only considers you a “friend”….is like being expensive Louis Vuitton luggage that is left unclaimed at the airport. Good enough to travel with, take care of your sh*t and even show off. But not good enough to stake claim and take home. Just saying…Boom!
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