The Lifetime original movie that premiered on Saturday, January 24th. “With This Ring” tells the story of four sista girlfriends who made a vow to get married (or engaged) within one year. Hold up wait a minute! Could this be the result of the statistics that states that only 1 of 2 black women will ever get married? Maybe. But here’s the thing, I don’t personally take issue with making a goal and working hard to achieve it. For the most part, people decide and use timelines of when they want to move their lives to the next level all the time – be it completing college or buying their first home…In my opinion, why should getting married or engaged be any different? Is marriage such a sacred commitment, that to set out to accomplish this such goal would breed calamity and sacrilege? Just saying.. Let’s keep it real! Most girls / women dream of finding Mr. Right and marrying him-believing they will live happily ever after. But here lies the problem.. LOVE! We all want love and to be loved. And there’s a really important point made in the movie and that is about self-love and realizing that being married does not define a happy life … It’s important for women to enjoy their life without fear of being single. Otherwise, as in the movie, they will settle for “that guy,” aka the guy who’s always wanted to date her but she just not that into him. Which brings me to my next subject… Isn’t online dating the rave? I think it’s the best thing invented since Starbucks. Why are people embarrassed to admit they use this remarkable invention? I have found that most single people prefer online dating to the bar scene because online dating offers a better chance of getting a first date. I support online dating and feel it is necessary in our crazy fast-pace world; however, I must admit I spent watching the movie yelling “Duh!” and “Yeah, I know!” and “Of course!” at the screen every time these strong, black, college-educated, career women had a breakthrough. But in the end, I do think they all came to realize that marriage is not the end all be all. Perhaps true for some, an important part of the female journey to make them feel whole, but you’re not defined as a woman by marriage. Boom!
Desperation or determination? What’s your thoughts? Let’s get conversational.